Hypnotherapy frees from emotional traps, guilt & helplessness
“Why there is no justice in this world? If there is a God, then why He is making me suffer in such a way? What wrong I have done to go through such an exploitation? I am a good intentioned simple girl from a small town and had no idea about the manipulative culture of this big city… I mean no harm to anyone… I trust people… I respect people as they are… Perhaps I need to change…” At this point she stopped and started crying hysterically… And I allowed her to that till she calmed down… Tears kept rolling down her cheeks for a long time even after she had stopped crying…
I intently kept looking at her. She was young, fair complexioned, and beautiful. She was tall, slim, had long hair, hazel nut eyes and oval face with high cheekbones. She belonged to a small town in Rajasthan and was living in Delhi for a few years to complete her education. Her father passed away early and being the eldest child, she had to step in his shoes as the caretaker of her mother and younger siblings.
“Every day I was being told that I am the eldest and I have to become something to provide for the family… no one cared that I too was only 17 and still so young and raw… so many expectations from me… so many responsibilities …” with her eyes closed she was still sobbing and breathing heavily on the recliner in my therapy room.
As she belonged to a lower middle-class family, paucity of funds made her stay as paying guest with the family of one of the male faculty members of the institute and share their already crammed up space. Coming from a small-town extended family, not only she kept paying her monthly rental and food bills but kind-heartedly offered to help in the day-to-day household chorus. Meanwhile the male faculty member developed ‘soft corner’ for her.
“I was always being exhorted to show compassion and kindness towards my mother and younger siblings. I was always expected to take care of them, mentor them and become a guardian to them… but no one cared that I also need compassion and kindness… I also needed mentoring and taken care of. Finally, when this guy offered me the needed kindness, compassion and mentoring and started taking care of me, I developed weak knees and gave myself to him…” she took a long breath and opened her teary eyes.
Slowly she landed in sort of a trap. Even after being a paying guest she gradually became a maid in the house. The emotional trap from the husband and ‘forced guilt trap’ from the wife was forcing her not only to pay the rent and all her food bills but also clean, cook and wash. She felt helpless, powerless and clueless to free herself from this quagmire of emotions and guilt.
Who was responsible for this mess in her life? God, situations or she herself.
My many clients, more so women clients, share the similar story of being exploited, emotionally black mailed and waylaid through the guilt trap. Most of the time they blame ‘kismat’ or God. Some also justify it bringing the ‘karmic element’ and being a penance martyr. But very few have the courage to admit that its none else but they themselves are to be blamed or responsible for their bad soup.
Hypnotherapy helps you to pull your self out from such a suffocating situation in which you feel emotionally paralyzed to free your self from the imposed false guilt and sentimental web woven by a smart cookie. I am blessed to have helped thousands of my clients come out of such horrific situation and lead a confident and glorious life.