How we communicate our thoughts says a lot about us.
We often, unknowingly, tend to use words that project negativity when we, in fact, want to do the opposite.
For example, in my sessions I have heard people say to me "I don't want to feel sad anymore", when they actually want to say "I want to feel happy". I immediately correct them by asking "if you don't want to feel sad, what do you want to feel instead?". And the moment they say "I want to feel happy", their complete personality and body language changes and there is a smile on their face.
We also sometimes say "I have to..." be happy or lose weight or exercise or quit smoking. The phrase 'I have to' has the tendency to make us feel compelled to do something when we probably don't even want to do it. This phrase traps us in a set of rules. As humans, we are not born to be trapped. We always function better when we choose to do something on our own. Therefore, I always tell my clients to say "I choose to..." be happy or lose weight or exercise or be a non-smoker. By 'choosing' to do a particular thing, not only are we happily agreeing to do it, but we are also taking the responsibility on ourselves to do it, without getting trapped in rules or regulations set by the society.
Such is the power of words... The power of communication….
Let's choose to communicate wisely and positively! Words influence our feelings.