It’s Ok to be sad
Recently I received a call from someone who wanted an appointment with me because he was in depression, and he said it in a way as if it was a taboo to be depressed. When he finally came and sat down in front of me, the first thing he said was, “don’t think I am mad. I do not have any mental illness. I am just depressed because of certain issues. That does not mean I am mentally unstable, right?”
I was not surprised to hear this because a lot of people still consider seeking mental or emotional help as something shameful. They feel that the society will look down upon them, laugh at them or, worse, send them to a mental institution. However, what did surprise me was what he told me about his issue. His brother had passed away less than two months before his visit to me. Right after this unfortunate event, he started having sleepless nights because he was really close to his brother and missed him terribly. One of his friend’s father was a psychiatrist and, when he heard about this ‘insomnia’, put him on anti-depressants. The condition got worse in a few days and he started experiencing numbness in his brain and would often go ‘blank’ or become ‘spaced-out’. The friend’s father sent him to a neurologist, conducted some tests, sent him to a psychoanalyst for further diagnosis and eventually reached the conclusion that he is clinically depressed and has borderline bipolar disorder and put him on strong medication.
Now all of this happened in a matter of 10 days. He was already taking prescribed drugs for 20 days when he visited. But all this while, and thankfully so, he was not ready to accept whatever the doctors told him and wanted to give an alternative therapy, like hypnotherapy, a try.
It surprised me that how, for something as natural as grieving the death of a loved one, he had to go through so much. Have people’s tolerance levels really gone down so much? Or is it that, because of so many drugs manufacturers out in the market, almost every medical professional simply wants to shove more and more drugs down people’s throats, for as long as they can pay for them?
Sadness, frustration, anger, guilt, panic, stress – these are all part of our humanness. As long as these emotions do not drive us to the point of hurting ourselves or others, it is okay to feel them, experience them, deal with them and let go of them. Yes, medicines ARE important for those suffering serious medical conditions – mental or physical – but you do not need to pop a pill every time you let a heavy breath out.
Instead, try alternative practices, like hypnotherapy, to deal better with everyday ‘normal’ emotional issues. Hypnotherapy helps you in becoming stronger, happier and more positive. And NO, it is not a drug… it is just a way of life. Try it for yourself today and feel its benefits.